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How often do we hear the word forgiveness? Many books have been written on this topic. Self-help gurus refer to it. We think of forgiveness as a nice thing and sometimes refer to it in conversation as a viable and important quality. But in the raw and gritty challenges with life, do we call it up from within to resolve the conflict we are having with someone or within ourselves? We find it hard to forgive those who have hurt our feelings, caused injury to our ego, disappointed and caused us emotional pain. We often keep an argument going with someone close to us because we simply can't forgive them or the situation. We may consider ourselves to be wise spirits but deep down inside is a grinding pain when we think of a person with whom we have struggle and especially if that person is ungrateful. What about the difficult and angry person who misconstrued our intentions or lied to us only to turn things around claiming our actions to be selfishly motivated? What about family members who have passed judgment on us, left us out of functions, rejected us, misunderstood our behavior or simply don't return our love?

I have an ongoing conversation about forgiveness with my son who is incarcerated in a California prison and has two years left to serve. He told me how he was feeling the height, breadth and depth of forgiveness. He said how he could feel his heart expanding with the of thought. It was a letting down and letting go into a place inside where he felt his holy spirit. He whispered to me in a tender voice to just forgive all the pain that I felt over everything and everyone who has ever hurt me. He asked me to understand that it is the only way to happiness and peace. From the nightmare of his life in jail, he lifted me up to receive a profound and powerful message which I pass along to you.

Consider who and what could be forgiven and let the feelings wash over your body, mind and spirit.

See where it takes you...

Sirah Vettese, Ph.D.
Spiritual Makeover: Ten Practices for Falling in Love with Your Life
http://www.sirahvettese.com

I believe that somewhere deep inside we know that if we are not getting what we want in life, there may be a block to getting it.

Feeling deserving of something has everything to do with our willingness to accept the good, even if you don’t think you deserve it. Finding the motivation to change our thinking is a critical factor in allowing for change in our lives.

Healing the past is part of this process. People who have been subjected to abuse or neglect often unknowingly hold the belief that what they wish for is not within their reach.

This is where imagination comes in. It is one of our most important
tools. Visualizing or day dreaming into a longing or specific ideal
is a potent action.

Decide:
What you want - be specific. (for example: I want a loving relationship that is easy, fun and anchored in honesty.)

If there is a block to this, what could it be? (for example: My father was an addict, I am more familiar with this kind of man than a normal, well balanced man.)

Look inside and see if you feel you deserve to have what you want. What thoughts come up about this? (for example, I don’t feel good enough to have a successful, kind hearted man as my mate.

These principles hold true for all of us. No matter what we have now, the curve of growth is there to be explored. There is usually some area of our lives that we want to accomplish something and reach a new goal.

Dr. Sirah Vettese is the author of Spiritual Makeover: Ten Practices for Falling in Love with your Life. She offers wise guidance and support as a life one on one coach.

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